Sexuality and Empowerment

Sex—let’s talk about it. Too often, it's treated as a taboo subject, only whispered about among close friends. 

Think back to those awkward sex ed conversations in school or with your parents. They were shrouded in shame and embarrassment, with adults feeling uncomfortable and kids giggling nervously. This sets us up for an adolescence where we feel the need to keep the conversation about sex a secret, or to be ashamed of exploring our sensuality. But what if we flipped the script? What if we saw sex not as something to shy away from but as an incredibly empowering and creative act? 

Being sexually active carries unfair negative connotations. Society often labels it as dirty or immoral, yet no one talks about intimacy and how a healthy sex life can create a positive self image, improve your mental health, and empowerment. Sex is a fundamental aspect of the human experience and helps us to understand not only the importance of communication but also how to be intimate with another human being. It's about learning to express what you like and don't like, and the balance between letting go of control and setting boundaries in a liberating way. 

Sexual energy is a powerhouse of creativity. 

It’s not just about being inventive during sex; it's about harnessing that energy as a potent force for creativity in all aspects of life. When we channel this energy, we become more powerful, present, and mindful. This surge of energy releases endorphins—those feel-good chemicals that ignite our creativity. Many artists, writers, and creatives have tapped into their sexual energy to fuel their work. 

Recently, I watched an eye-opening TED talk by Dr. Tara, who delves into the concept of sexual self-esteem—the internal sense of one's sexual self. She explains that high sexual self-esteem stems from knowing your body, understanding your sexual preferences, and believing in yourself. Embracing your sexuality can lead to greater body positivity and self-acceptance. 

For me, working as an escort in a safe and protected environment has been the perfect way to develop and explore this sense of sexual self-esteem. Sex can make women feel more confident in their bodies, and when you feel good about your body, it translates into other areas of your life, boosting your confidence and self-worth. Personally, since being an escort I have gone from being quite shy and introverted to being more extroverted, it has improved my confidence, and it has helped me become that much more capable of speaking up for myself and what I like and dislike.

Owning one's sexuality is a powerful way to break free from restrictive societal norms and expectations.

Many women feel constrained by traditional roles and expectations about how they should behave sexually. Emphasising the importance of women defining their own sexual identities and experiences is crucial. By doing so, women can dismantle outdated beliefs and embrace their sexuality on their own terms, as you should!

A fulfilling sex life also has significant mental health benefits. Regular, consensual sex has been shown to reduce stress, improve mood, and even alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression. According to Dr. Lori Brotto, a leading expert in sexual health, engaging in sexual activity can release endorphins and oxytocin, which are natural mood enhancers. These chemicals help to combat stress and foster a sense of well-being. So not only is a healthy sex life fun but it’s great for your mind too, who would’ve thought?

It's an individual journey that each of us must explore. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but discovering these requires time and self-exploration. There’s nothing wrong with that journey. In fact, it’s essential. If you’re single, there is no harm in exploring that journey with multiple partners, but everything in moderation of course.

Let’s begin to change the stigma that being sexually active or having multiple partners makes you immoral or gross. Embrace the idea that sex is a natural, beautiful, and an empowering part of life. It's time to see sex not as a source of shame, but as a powerful tool for connection, creativity, and self-discovery.